• The job posting represents the profile of the ideal candidate the company wants to hire.  The hiring manager knows that it is unlikely that he/she will find the ideal candidate.  Therefore, your job is to show how close your profile is to that of the perfect candidate described in the job posting.


• Don't let the job description intimidate you:  Job seekers are quite often intimidated by job descriptions and don't apply for jobs they actually are qualified for.  As a job seeker, remember that 100% of people who get the job applied for it!  Therefore, if your profile meets most of the requirements and some of the preferences listed on the description, apply and let the hiring manager make a decision!


• Requirements versus preferences:  Hiring managers know that they will not find a candidate with all the requirements and preferences they listed on the description.   Based on numerous conversations with recruiting managers, it is not uncommon to hear that the job description changes as they meet with candidates.  Therefore, focus on the value you can create by highlighting how much you have in common with the ideal candidate.


• Use the job posting as your roadmap:  Your goal is to demonstrate how close your profile is to that of the ideal candidate described in the job description.  Use the keywords and skill names used in the job description to tailor your resume and your cover letter.


• A computer will first review your application:  In the digital age, your application is likely to first be evaluated by a computer program.  The computer program will assess if your cover letter and resume match at about 60%-80% of the terms used in the job description.  If your resume and cover letter don't meet the set criterion, your application is likely to be discarded.  Therefore, it is important to take the time to send tailored applications for your jobs of interest.  This will increase the probability of your application to be taken seriously, and to be reviewed by the hiring manager.

• Our Justmeans Job Board


• Net Impact (membership required)


• Lifeworth


• Businesses for Social Responsibility (BSR) Job Board or Careers within BSR

• Social entrepreneurs create new organizations to eradicate a specific social or environmental problem.  A great starting point:  Find out more about the new recipient of the 2010 Social Innovation Awards!  These SEIs might be making a difference related to a cause you want to contribute to.


• Social intrapreneurs make their unique contributions as members of existing organizations (for examples, see our company directory, or explore B-Corps).

Feel busy but not productive in your job search? Being organized is a skill that one learns by practice, implementation and action. A willingness to experiment and to focus on what you want and need, rather than on ridge rules or advise, is helpful in producing the result you need. As you grow and change, so do your organizational systems at home and in the office. Have you outgrown existing ways of organizing, office management, and career search practice? If so, you're one among many who can benefit from evaluating and redesigning your systems. As a career and leadership coach, I find that many of my clients come to me with various concerns and questions regarding being more efficient. The tips below have come from years of research with my clients.

• Four steps to creating results in your job search. These systems will save you time, money and effort. 1. Research your current needs; make a list of your tasks and systems for one week. 2. Design the system based on your research findings, needs, and your thinking and organizing process; 3. Implement the system; buy what you need, hire someone to assist you, do what you need to do begin the process of improvement; basically take action and Just do it!; 4. Revaluate and change your systems as needed.


• Sort through the incoming email, mail, & voicemails. Allow items and projects related to your job search to be touched by you only once and decide what pile they belong in: the Four D's: Do, Delegate, Dump (trash) or Design (file).


• Put it away. File items immediately according to the above categories. Have your resources needed all together. The less time you spend hunting for something, the more time you haveyou're your job search and are more motivated and willing to follow through. If you're ever overwhelmed in choosing a career; tell the truth, imagine a result and get into action.


• Design Your Space. Evaluate whether your job search space is the most efficient for you right now. Ask yourself the following questions: Are the items you use most frequently within easy reach? Is your organizational system working for you, or do you have trouble locating important information? How is your computer equipment (hard and software) supporting you.


• You're in Command. Give yourself permission to redesign your job search actions. Know that you do not need to do everything at once, and remember to get help and support. Encouraging others to help can be a tremendous resource and help.
]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Career-Choices-After-40/7293.html Sat, 30 Jan 2010 03:51:50 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Career-Choices-After-40/7293.html At midlife: reinvention and change is commonplace. The recession has forced everyone to reconsider how their values contribute to and support them, and what options are open to them for career direction. As we begin this process of research and career choices we may notice that the salary isn't the only motivator but instead we are aiming for a lifestyle of improvement, more reasonable hours to yourself or your family, honoring of your values and authenticity or less commute time. If you will r Read Full Article ]]> At midlife: reinvention and change is commonplace. The recession has forced everyone to reconsider how their values contribute to and support them, and what options are open to them for career direction. As we begin this process of research and career choices we may notice that the salary isn't the only motivator but instead we are aiming for a lifestyle of improvement, more reasonable hours to yourself or your family, honoring of your values and authenticity or less commute time.

If you will recall from the article earlier this week on Career Trends you'll notice some of the same career information below from More Magazine as from US News & Report. Let's explore some terrific careers for women over the age of 40. The decade of our 40's is all about exploration, creativity, expanding into our greater work, production and producing for ourselves and our families. By following this awareness we have career choices that will inspire us to all new heights.

Being able to align with a career path that allows you to be your authentic self is empowering. The careers run the gamut from for profit to non-profit. Here is a sampling of what More Magazine, November 2009, have found to be popular among women. The careers are: Community Service Coordinator/Manager, Personal financial adviser, Environment scientist, Registered nurse, Computer and information systems manager, and Education administrator. Each of these reflects and represents larger trends we are noting around the world.

They are social service, financial impact and power, the environment, healthcare, computer technology and education. As you match your skills with trends some interesting things appeared in the survey which women in their 40's are 50% more likely to consider school and 75% were stated wanting to keep their high salary earnings instead of switching to a less paying position. What was interesting was noting that a flexible work schedule ranked up there equal and on par to making a lot of money. By the time we reach our 40s we know who we are and what we are passionate about and want to have time to enjoy it. How are you allowing your passions to guide your career decisions?

In exploring your career choices it's important to match your passions, interests and willingness to the market place. Understanding local and global trends is helpful in determining skills and connections that may need to be learned or enhanced. I encourage you to identify first the industry that intrigues you, find someone already doing the job that you want to, and find a way to learn from him or her, and identify clearly where you need to focus your attention.

What the research shows is that personal satisfaction drives our career choices. Be clear about where you are going.]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Obama-s-Career-Plan/7502.html Fri, 29 Jan 2010 00:57:15 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Obama-s-Career-Plan/7502.html Obama spoke in his State of the Union Address on many topics and matters but the most important one on the minds of the 10-15% of the population unemployed is when will new jobs be created? When will my resume be read and an interview result in a solid living wage job offer. People I know are being faced with possible foreclosure, bankruptcy, repossessions due to being out of work. Their lives are now facing a new turn unique to them but not uncommon for many. Who do we turn to and what do we do Read Full Article ]]> Obama spoke in his State of the Union Address on many topics and matters but the most important one on the minds of the 10-15% of the population unemployed is when will new jobs be created? When will my resume be read and an interview result in a solid living wage job offer. People I know are being faced with possible foreclosure, bankruptcy, repossessions due to being out of work. Their lives are now facing a new turn unique to them but not uncommon for many. Who do we turn to and what do we do?

It's good to hear that President Obama is calling for a new bill to generate jobs opportunities but where will the jobs be and what skills will be needed to do them? One arena is high speed train service which I'll write about next week. He didn't share much about what might be in the plan but I hope that he'll be discussing the importance of generating a living wage.

Do you remember when George Bush Junior said on national TV how he thought it was so gallant for the middle America worker to be holding down three jobs to pay for rent, and food, and basic living needs? People were outraged because of the situation pointing to the issue of minimum wage. Having it be defined as the minimum level of income deemed necessary to achieve an adequate standard of living in a given country. So given that, much of what we are fixing in this country is that many people aren't even working enough to take care of their basic needs. We need people working and making a living wage.

With 15.3 million people unemployed and thousands more discourage or in so much shock they can't seem to take action how do we fix this problem and move people into greater job opportunities? What I recommend is staying connected with uplifting people, get informed and educated and chart your own path. Consider doing something outside your comfort zone like saying no, starting a business, moving to another country, learning a new skill. I've decided to get trained in Traumatology and learning a skill like massage.

Obama says small businesses are the biggest source of job creation and hold the key to reducing unemployment. I assert its time to step forward and start your own business or join a small firm to generate your own job opportunities. As a resource I am launching my Success Coaching Program by phone to help you get clear on your strengths, move through transition, generate goals, and start your own business and become more successful. Ask me about it.

What critics are saying is that confidence is low about the economy recovering quickly. Many say it may 3-4 years before we are back to the pre-recession level of 5% unemployment. The economy with the help of Obama and his team must generate 100,000 new jobs per month to make a dent.

I am reminded to remember that the root word to confidence and courage are the same. To be courageous allows you to be confident. Ask yourself what can I do just today to demonstrate my own willingness to be a pioneer and to step out in power and confidence? What are you doing to generate your own personal economy of wealth and job opportunities?]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Do-your-Research-Provides-Job-Opportunities/7286.html Tue, 26 Jan 2010 01:58:19 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Do-your-Research-Provides-Job-Opportunities/7286.html We're seeing specific trends, which relate to job opportunities, which impact your employability and possible job direction. What I recommend is that you examine your values, interests and skills in the context of where our world is going and the trends that are upon us. There are five major areas that we are seeing house new career focuses. What I encourage you to do is not only look at the job titles and industries but to also explore how those skills needed and being sought after can inspire Read Full Article ]]> We're seeing specific trends, which relate to job opportunities, which impact your employability and possible job direction. What I recommend is that you examine your values, interests and skills in the context of where our world is going and the trends that are upon us.

There are five major areas that we are seeing house new career focuses. What I encourage you to do is not only look at the job titles and industries but to also explore how those skills needed and being sought after can inspire and give direction to auxiliary careers.

The five categories are: science and technology, healthcare industry, business and finance fields, technical creative, and on the job physically focused service jobs which require technical training.

By examining the specific career trends and job titles you begin to see patterns that might give direction towards specific jobs that are a good fit for you. You may also gleam ideas for how you could serve and contribute to those industries. It's important to both look specifically and globally at trends.

There are many promising job opportunities in all of these categories. Let's talk about some of the job opportunities which are open to you. The category of science and technology is the fast growing occupation, a 72 percent growth in general a great deal more than the 10 percentage for biomedical. What is this telling us? That energy and money is moving towards this technical sector including jobs as a network architect to meteorologists. These careers are exploring the micro and macro arenas. Keep in mind this new field is hiring people to develop video games, computer/phone apps, computer software, or military missile system.

The healthcare industry is also expanding hiring people to do jobs beyond the common nurse and veterinarian. There are jobs that don't require as much education as these, consider exploring being an x-ray or lab technicians. These healthcare jobs are also portable. Consider that many careers can travel with you, beyond your city, state and even country. Not only can you be paid for them but you can also volunteer in service with them.]]> http://www.justmeans.com/You-Are-You-in-Leadership/6687.html Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:08:25 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/You-Are-You-in-Leadership/6687.html This year I equate leadership to your health as strengthening my health is one of my main focuses this year. What is one of yours? As you strengthen your inner health and expression your outer expression naturally shifts and changes too. Take a look at the article Sustaining healthy resolutions under Health to get inspired. Who is your ideal super hero figure? Are you demonstrating those qualities in your career search and your job? I find it easier when coaching clients to help them project on Read Full Article ]]> This year I equate leadership to your health as strengthening my health is one of my main focuses this year. What is one of yours? As you strengthen your inner health and expression your outer expression naturally shifts and changes too. Take a look at the article Sustaining healthy resolutions under Health to get inspired.

Who is your ideal super hero figure? Are you demonstrating those qualities in your career search and your job? I find it easier when coaching clients to help them project onto a movie character or super hero figure their dreams and aspirations verses looking only within for their direction as a leader. Think about it, your favorite super figure: Wonder woman, Superman, Batman, Bionic women, Indian Chiefs, Mickey Mouse, Mr. Fantastic, Flash, Jean Grey, etc. Here is a comprehensive list http://www.comicvine.com/characters/

The point is that our inner definition and model for comparison can influence our expression as a leader. I encourage you to rent a movie this week highlighting a actor as a leader whom you admire, and watch with the eye of a scientist examining their gestures, comments, actions and relationships. What do you see them doing or how they are being that might facilitate you in being a stronger leader in your career and job search?

As we dive deeper into leadership let's explore my top C's for Leadership. They are: curious, connected, competent, creative, committed and connected.

1. A leader is incredibly curious and eager to learn. (curious)
They study, ask questions and read - constantly! An interesting point, however: While most of them did well in school, the difference is that they apply or take advantage of what they learn. Repeated success is not about memorizing facts, it's about being able to take information and create, build, or apply it in new and important ways.
2. A leader networks extraordinarily well. (connected)
They know lots of people, and they know lots of different kinds of people. They listen to friends, neighbors, coworkers and bartenders. They don't have to be 'the life of the party,' in fact many are quiet, even shy, but they value people and they value relationships. Leaders are people who have outlook express, or a phone full of people who value their friendship, know that they want to help them and stay in touch.
3. A leader works on themselves and sees themselves as a work in progress (competent)
Really successful people work on their personality, their leadership skills, management skills, and every other detail of life. When a relationship, career or job goes sour, they assume they can learn from it and they expect to do better next time. Successful people don't tolerate anything and they fix the situation and what caused it.
4. A leader is extraordinarily creative. (creative)
They go around asking, 'Why not?' They see new combinations, new possibilities, new opportunities and challenges where others see problems or limitations. They wake up in the middle of the night yelling, 'I've got it!' They ask for advice, try things out, consult with experts and amateurs, always looking for a better, faster, cheaper solution.
5. They are self-reliant and take responsibility. (committed)
Incredibly successful people don't worry about blame, and they don't waste time complaining. They make decisions and move on. Extremely successful leaders take the initiative and accept the responsibilities of success. They are dedicated to what they see as their truth.
6. Extremely successful people have a gift for living in the present moment. (connected)
They know that 'Now' is the only time they can control. They have a 'gift' for looking people in the eye, listening to what is being said, enjoying a meal or fine wine, music or playing with a child. They never seem rushed, and they get a lot done! They take full advantage of each day. The best leaders are people who don't waste time, but instead use it! They observe trends, notice changes, see shifts, and hear the nuances that others miss. Extremely successful people live in the present, with one eye on the future!]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Being-Your-Own-Business-Owner/6668.html Sun, 10 Jan 2010 20:46:38 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Being-Your-Own-Business-Owner/6668.html As a business owner you have the incredible ability to impact significant trends and new movements by thinking differently and choosing to align your values with your direction. Take a look at the article by Marcia in Social Enterprise. Part of being a visionary is looking in areas where you can get insights and apply to your line of work. Take for instance working in co-working groups. Where can you apply that principle in one or many areas in your business? Who can you work along side that i Read Full Article ]]>
As a business owner you have the incredible ability to impact significant trends and new movements by thinking differently and choosing to align your values with your direction. Take a look at the article by Marcia in Social Enterprise.

Part of being a visionary is looking in areas where you can get insights and apply to your line of work. Take for instance working in co-working groups. Where can you apply that principle in one or many areas in your business? Who can you work along side that in the past perhaps you didn't? Insight and direction require feedback and time to reflect and ponder, where can you allow new ideas to flow into your business and give you direction? Use networking and relationship building as one way to do this.

What are you finding that you need, to be a success in owning or working in your own business? Please share your comments with us.

Specifically I see that the trend is the necessity to foresee the future and identify cross-pollination platforms. What is being done in a different business sector that you can adopt, change and recreate to serve your business goals?
As a businessperson you need to stay close and personal with your clients. What ways are you allowing your customer to inspire and educate you? Do you survey them, invite them to dinner, encourage them to submit ideas, and otherwise engage with you on a level of co-partnership. The days are over where the business CEO knew everything and told his or her staff what to do and then in turn tell the customer we know best. We are moving into a decade of partnership and co-teaching that will facilitate everyone's goals and outcomes. Many people are even considering starting their own non-profits or partnering with an already existing one.

As I've shared before in articles on values it is crucial to see what motivates your actions. By linking your values to your actions you begin to see immediate clarity in service offerings and in your bottom line. I encourage asking as we begin 2010 and a new decade what actually is your bottom line? Another way to say that is, "How will you know you are successful?" "What matters most to you now?" These questions will guide you as to claiming your personal and professional milestones. As mentioned in the articles on the Justmeans.com site we see new formulas for success are emerging. Things such as having greater social impact, having a louder voice, creating successful models and ventures, saving lives, serving the planet, etc. Continuing business as usual is no longer the case but instead a direction of focus with spirit at work and being a leader are.

Some specific skills I see that are needed in this new market: global mobile communication skills, online social networks, multicultural sensitivity, compassionate listening, public speaking, blogging and writing, circular time awareness, leadership, financial independence, and networking skills. What skills do you see are required?
Consider thinking with a beginner's mind and approach your opportunity as a business person like a child would. With enthusiasm, curiosity and joy.]]> http://www.justmeans.com/-Quiet-Leader-How-Be-One/6481.html Sun, 03 Jan 2010 20:06:12 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/-Quiet-Leader-How-Be-One/6481.html There are two types of quiet. One of which is quiet due to absence of noise and conversation and the other is from inner silence based on clear convictions, principles and focus. In the workplace and all areas of life, both are valid and relevant to producing the results that you desire. In my blog and during the month of January I'll be writing about Spirit at Work and Leadership. Please encourage your colleagues and friends to visit JustMeans and sign up for our blog. As a leader your power a Read Full Article ]]> There are two types of quiet. One of which is quiet due to absence of noise and conversation and the other is from inner silence based on clear convictions, principles and focus. In the workplace and all areas of life, both are valid and relevant to producing the results that you desire. In my blog and during the month of January I'll be writing about Spirit at Work and Leadership. Please encourage your colleagues and friends to visit JustMeans and sign up for our blog.

As a leader your power and strength come from a vision and willingness to act with personal and collective principles and actions. Knowing when to speak and share a goal and when to listen and allow others to lead is imperative to being a Quiet Leader with impact. The reason for doing this allows you to lead with grace and respect which encourages those you are engaged with to step forward. As a leader you need to create something to be known for and demonstrate that in your results.

As a leader your will be followed and remember more for how you are for the other person and your care in listening to those whom you work with. Your presence and listening provides opportunities for people to step into their power and to see you as the person that facilitated their leadership and professionalism.

As a quiet leader you want to identify and place yourself in arenas where you pick the right battles to fight and let the rest go. Being quiet at certain times provides the space and energy to focus on what is most important. If you step up and complain, take issue with every matter or personality difference then you loose your creditability and power as a leader. When you pick battles that aren't in alignment with your principles and goals then you create static and distraction, which takes away from your focus and intention. It's better to reserve your objections to matters which directly relate to your goals and to sidestep the others.

I find it important as a quiet leader to share less flash and ego and to gather allies in the work place who can understand and help you to demonstrate your vision and goals. The other benefit of this is that you engage those who know, perceive and can articulate an additional perspective that you may not see. Since you've been building your leadership by listening and being silent you have more clarity and space to actually take in other's points of view. By having a vision and goals, and remembering who you serve you build momentum and creditability as a quiet leader. You want to stand tall behind and with your team as well as out front in leadership.

As a good solid leader I always recommend that you do some type of personal work to develop your inner quiet. It is suggested that you begin mediation, martial arts, observation techniques, exercise or personal coaching and focus the work towards something specific such as strengthening your quiet leadership.

Please let me know what you choose.]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Bringing-Your-Master-Passions-Work/6441.html Sat, 02 Jan 2010 00:42:41 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Bringing-Your-Master-Passions-Work/6441.html It's important to identify what your natural strengths are and give space and time to shine in the workplace. I recommend you review all the past jobs you have had and identify your specific areas of accomplishments. Make a list of each position with title, job responsibilities and your results; big or small. Make note of specific acknowledgements and feedback from those who you work with and for. Their descriptions and language can give you guidance about the specific master passions which are Read Full Article ]]> It's important to identify what your natural strengths are and give space and time to shine in the workplace. I recommend you review all the past jobs you have had and identify your specific areas of accomplishments. Make a list of each position with title, job responsibilities and your results; big or small. Make note of specific acknowledgements and feedback from those who you work with and for. Their descriptions and language can give you guidance about the specific master passions which are yours.

Passion is a compelling action or emotion that moves you into action or maintains momentum for a task, goal, or duty. The more you can assess your level of passion for something the easier it will be to maintain it. Look at what you do naturally and easily that you look forward to and engaged with. I recommend you have a mechanism for evaluating your personal scale of passion. When you can clearly assess your engagement in a path or task the easier it is to move about and change direction as necessary. You want to bring your entire self to the work place and the best way to do that is to know what you are passionate about and bring with you. We'll be discussing in January an entire series on Spirit at Work and one key factor for your spirit is your passion.

There are two ways I suggest in doing this. The first is to take what is assigned or given on the job and match your passions to that. Let's say for instance you enjoy humor and making people smile or laugh. This of itself may be minor but seen in the aspect of passion would give you some context and direction for your interactions. You then would do your job with the intention of bringing lightness and making people smile to all things that you do, you would find ways to bring a smile to the work place. The second way is to seek out and request projects where you are using your passion. Perhaps being on a special committee or generating a new division or working on a cross-functional team, etc. Both of which are excellent tools for bringing yourself and your passion to work. It's really about being mindful of what you are passionate about and then making space for that to come through.

If you don't take your passion seriously then you won't be able to allow it to blossom and shine. It's your responsibility to bring your master passions to the work place and provide the environment and respect they require in order to provide you the confidence and encouragement you desire.]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Hot-Tips-for-Thriving-During-Holiday-Season-4-of-4-parts/6132.html Fri, 25 Dec 2009 06:11:56 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Hot-Tips-for-Thriving-During-Holiday-Season-4-of-4-parts/6132.html Have you identified a way to give back and serve others? Be authentic: drop expectations of yourself and others. Every holiday is different, and each year the experience you have on the same holiday will vary. Placing expectations on yourself to cook the perfect meals, go to all the parties, pick the right gifts (in the right sizes and colors) and to be entertained and to entertain everyone you are with, is a setup for stress and disappointment. Being where you are now requires that you hold yo Read Full Article ]]> Have you identified a way to give back and serve others?

Be authentic: drop expectations of yourself and others. Every holiday is different, and each year the experience you have on the same holiday will vary. Placing expectations on yourself to cook the perfect meals, go to all the parties, pick the right gifts (in the right sizes and colors) and to be entertained and to entertain everyone you are with, is a setup for stress and disappointment. Being where you are now requires that you hold yourself differently and plan accordingly. Back to telling the truth and planning what you want to do in your own way, and accept the outcomes. Accept that you will never be all things to all people. Stress and post-holiday blues set in when we are attached to how people will respond to our food, our gifts, or even our presence. Have fun in your own way, respect others to do the same, take it a minute or an hour at a time, and both your happiness level and your holiday experience will be enhanced and will not feel like a chore or an annual struggle or obligation.

Prepare for events in stages If you are going to be cooking for a large group on one or more occasions, shop ahead, and prepare what you can ahead of time, whether it is the day before or the night before. If you have 100 cards to be addressed and mailed, block off 15-30 minutes every day to work on them starting 2-3 weeks before they need to be mailed. If they are custom cards, order them so you get them in good time to address them without rushing. Shop all year around for gifts. When you see a sale, look for possible gift ideas and put them away until the holiday comes! This alone can save much time (and money)! And you avoid the holiday crowds in the stores and malls. Cutting up your work in blocks of time instead of doing it all at once (with some exceptions gifts-wise and food-wise) can cut your stress level by a large amount.

Keep your perspective. Go with flow. Everything isn't going to go according to plan. Remember the bottom line is to have fun and be energized. You are the one that generates your experience of the holidays and this can be a tremendous time to revalue your values, identify how your career plans fit into your over all life and what you want most for your New Year!

What can you do different for next year? How will you step forward into the New Year energized and focused? Next week we'll focus on setting and keeping your career goals!]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Hot-Tips-for-Thriving-During-Holiday-Season-3-of-4-parts/6125.html Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:16:26 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Hot-Tips-for-Thriving-During-Holiday-Season-3-of-4-parts/6125.html How is it coming along taking care of yourself and including others? Don't spend holidays alone. Holidays are not happy times for some people for various reasons. If you live alone, unemployed, and dread the holidays or a particular holiday, spending it alone will usually add to you feeling depressed and very isolated. Give yourself permission to reach out to others in similar situations or find ways to make new friends. If you have any uncomfortable feelings you associate with a holiday will b Read Full Article ]]> How is it coming along taking care of yourself and including others?

Don't spend holidays alone. Holidays are not happy times for some people for various reasons. If you live alone, unemployed, and dread the holidays or a particular holiday, spending it alone will usually add to you feeling depressed and very isolated. Give yourself permission to reach out to others in similar situations or find ways to make new friends. If you have any uncomfortable feelings you associate with a holiday will be exacerbated by spending it alone. If you have friends or relatives, see if you can join them for a part of it. If not, volunteer your time to work at a food center where the holiday dinner is served and prepared.

Avoid or be very moderate with artificial stress reducers. Most holidays include the sharing or offering of alcoholic beverages. Since for many people, alcohol is one way to combat stress and even despondency, it is wise to limit your intake if you wish to limit your stress. Alcohol actually is only a temporary stress reducer. In large amounts, or in combination with a lot of chocolate and caffeine- laced food and drinks, it can actually cause your adrenal glands to secrete more adrenaline and other stress hormones, causing you to feel a lot worse than if you had nothing to drink at all. Since alcohol is also a depressant, if you are feeling low, it will increase that feeling as well. Drink with food, and pace yourself. The best stress reducers are laughter, exercise, walking, listening to and/or singing music, helping others, being loved and sharing love, and for many, communion with their church or faith through private or public ceremonies and events.

Help others/volunteer. This is especially good for the person who lives alone or is all alone as far as family and friends. New in town? Loss of friends due to being unemployed? Volunteer to work at a local church or shelter to help feed the homeless and the poor. Create your own sense of "community" by being with people who are also alone and in most instances, far worse off than you physically, financially and perhaps emotionally. The more you give, the more you will get back in blessings and good feelings yourself. It may not happen the same day or all at once, but it will happen. When you see that the best gift you can give is yourself, your spirit and spirits will rise and be reinforced.

Take time for yourself every day. Many people get depressed during the holidays. This year just make sure that every single day you have something to look forward to. It doesn't have to be something big and expensive. It can be a hot bath, a new magazine or a phone call to a friend. Most people get so busy in the holidays that they forget to enjoy themselves. If you always go to the gym and work out, don't quit just because it is a holidays or you are unemployed.

The fourth in the series, Thursday December 25th]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Hot-Tips-for-Thriving-During-Holiday-Season-4-parts/6109.html Sun, 20 Dec 2009 21:41:45 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Hot-Tips-for-Thriving-During-Holiday-Season-4-parts/6109.html How are you doing with regards to planning your holiday season? Accept your limitations/tell the truth sooner. This is tough to do, since we often want to do all kinds of things on a holiday and don't realize how much time and energy it will take from us in the end. While you are in between work the truth you may have less energy, time, and money for what you used to do at the holidays. Be okay with that. Be in communication with people and allow yourself permission to be grateful for what you d Read Full Article ]]>


How are you doing with regards to planning your holiday season?


Accept your limitations/tell the truth sooner. This is tough to do, since we often want to do all kinds of things on a holiday and don't realize how much time and energy it will take from us in the end. While you are in between work the truth you may have less energy, time, and money for what you used to do at the holidays. Be okay with that. Be in communication with people and allow yourself permission to be grateful for what you do have. Think about what you really have to do, and really want to do. Then think about what you realistically have adequate time and energy for.




Get the whole family involved. Have your kids or grandchildren address the Christmas, Chanukah or New Year cards. Have everyone coming to dinner bring a dish. Let the kids make the ornaments and bake the cookies. The holiday preparations can be a burden if you are doing everything by yourself, but lots of fun when pitches in. Also engage everyone's strengths. If someone loves to do Facebook or computerized digital photos or a video collage have them do it. Share the responsibility and the joy of the season.




Examine your holiday traditions. Ask everyone in your family what are the three most important things that really make the holiday special. Then focus on those things. You may discover that nobody really wants all those holiday cookies, but really love the tree decorating party. Do what makes the holiday special and forget the rest of the stuff. This will also facilitate the goal of spending less money and keeping your eye on what is most enjoyable. After the season is long over it's the memories you hold in your heart that count not what was bought.




Do not over-commit. Learn how to say no, with a smile and firm conviction. You only have so many days and hours to squeeze in family, friends, career searching, gift buying, food preparation, gift-wrapping, traveling, packing, etc. Make sure you have plenty of time to get your things done and whatever you commit to is within your physical and emotional abilities. If you find at the time a party or other event comes up that you feel very tired or even ill, cancel or ask for help. Don't play superman/woman. Holidays are to be enjoyed. Less is often more. Create reserve and cushions for down time. Leave plenty of space to rest, take naps, sleep in and say no. It's better to take on less and keep your agreements than try to do it all when you're not feeling up to it. You want to remember this holiday season with enjoyment not upset and anger.






Third in the series on Tuesday, December 22nd.



]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Hot-Tips-for-Thriving-During-Holiday-Season-4-parts/6098.html Sat, 19 Dec 2009 21:38:43 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Hot-Tips-for-Thriving-During-Holiday-Season-4-parts/6098.html What is for many a joyous and happy and spiritually based day or time period, often is comprised of frantic activities, shopping or guilt for not having money, not creating the year like last year, food marathons, and an increase in both stress and illness. The following tips can help you reduce the stress and prevent accompanying low energy levels that lead to reduced immune system which creates illness, the blues, fatigue, irritability, and generally a negative holiday experience. Manage your Read Full Article ]]>


What is for many a joyous and happy and spiritually based day or time period, often is comprised of frantic activities, shopping or guilt for not having money, not creating the year like last year, food marathons, and an increase in both stress and illness. The following tips can help you reduce the stress and prevent accompanying low energy levels that lead to reduced immune system which creates illness, the blues, fatigue, irritability, and generally a negative holiday experience.


Manage your time--don't let it manage you. Decide what your priorities are regarding holiday events such as parties, family functions, gift buying, cooking, and all other related activities. Put them in order of priority and give yourself an ample time deadline for each thing. DO NOT wait until the last minute unless absolutely necessary, or it will be hard for you to not feel pressure and stress. Plan your job search activities ahead of time. Set realistic goals for the holiday break and use this quiet time to ponder and prepare for the New Year energized! Create office hours if you plan to work and close your door to the noise, activities and things you could be doing. When working on your job search do that, when being with your family do that.




Use the Joy Filter for decision-making. If someone invites you to something ask yourself, Will this add joy to my life? If not, decline. You don't have to go to every single holiday party you are invited to. Stop sending masses of holiday cards unless you love to do it. Just pick ten people who are special to you and send them a hand-written card. Do only what you find joyful and you are guaranteed a terrific holiday season!




Create a Theme. Each year I take time after Thanksgiving to ponder the theme and focus that I want to be reminded of. This helps me keep a level head and make time for only what is important. It can be something like, Grace & Ease or Lights, Action & Fun! Identify a theme that works for you and is unique and engaging.




More to come on Sunday, December 20th.



]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Work-Family-Private-Life-Why-Not-All-Three/6030.html Thu, 17 Dec 2009 02:41:55 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Work-Family-Private-Life-Why-Not-All-Three/6030.html Begin with a Vision and picture of what you want for each area and in general for your life. I recommend you examine what is working and not and find threads of connection and synergy between all of these individual areas. This is what I recommend you begin looking at first. To be fulfilled and successful it's important to manage your time if you don't, it will manage you. Decide what your priorities are regarding your entire life plans. Remember to explore all areas of dreams and build towards Read Full Article ]]>


Begin with a Vision and picture of what you want for each area and in general for your life. I recommend you examine what is working and not and find threads of connection and synergy between all of these individual areas. This is what I recommend you begin looking at first.




To be fulfilled and successful it's important to manage your time if you don't, it will manage you. Decide what your priorities are regarding your entire life plans. Remember to explore all areas of dreams and build towards similarities between each area of your life. Put them in order of priority to you and give yourself an ample time line for each area complete with your attention and energy. We tend to create guilt and confusion about the overlap of these areas when we aren't present, expecting to be somewhere else when we are where we are. DO NOT wait until the last minute to engage in various aspects of your life. When you plan ahead and give yourself space between one area of your life and another you have time to relax into what you are doing and enjoy it more.




It's important to not over-commit. As we begin to have it all we need to learn how to say no, with a smile and firm conviction. You only have so many days and hours to squeeze in family, friends, and business get-togethers. Make sure you have plenty of time to get your things done first however, and that whatever you commit to is within your physical and emotional abilities. Don't play superman/woman.




Consider the focus of less is more in all areas to allow for deeper experiences and more value in each of them.




As you explore this intersection between work, family and private time you need to accept your limitations and be truthful with yourself. Just because you have an idea doesn't mean that you have to go through it. The more ideas you have the more overwhelmed and tired you can get. Take things one at a time and do it well so you experience the enjoyment and fulfillment. Think about what you really have to do, and really want to do. Then think about what you realistically have adequate time and energy to do. Break things into smaller tasks and put it on paper and stick to it. To learn more about efficiency and strategies for success check out my blog on Fool vs. Jerk.




I find it helpful as well to prepare for events and tasks in stages. That way you can plan your interaction in all areas of your life in and balanced and integrated way. Additionally, you can organize your activities from one area to another and save yourself a lot of time, stress, and concern for you and your family.




See your strengths and vision together assisting you to integrate the three areas together. You are the master of your personal and professional fate. Look with the eye of having it all.









]]> http://www.justmeans.com/Secrets-of-Successful-Businesswomen/5893.html Thu, 10 Dec 2009 06:41:30 GMT Cynthia Stringer Cynthia Stringer http://www.justmeans.com/Secrets-of-Successful-Businesswomen/5893.html As a woman we have special strengths and skills that need to be identified and used in concert with whatever career path you have chosen. For most we have a very deep sense of intuition and a desire for harmony and service. I find it important to work with your strengths and your innate qualities verses cursing or dismissing them. Some women judge their unique qualities or find ways to ignore them. The challenge with that is that they can be your greatest allies and champions in your career sear Read Full Article ]]>


As a woman we have special strengths and skills that need to be identified and used in concert with whatever career path you have chosen. For most we have a very deep sense of intuition and a desire for harmony and service. I find it important to work with your strengths and your innate qualities verses cursing or dismissing them. Some women judge their unique qualities or find ways to ignore them. The challenge with that is that they can be your greatest allies and champions in your career search. By working in partnership with who you are creates a more successful focus.


There are major secrets to being a success in business. The definition of a secret is that it is known to some and not all. Here are some proven tips from my clients which you may find helpful. The first of which is to claim your strengths. Give yourself permission, time and ability to highlight your assets. It's like being photographed or purchasing a new outfit. Go for what works. Identify what makes you unique and special and play up on that. Don't waste time on what isn't working.




As a woman we tend to say yes more than no. Test the waters by allowing yourself to be successful by focusing on what works best for you. Saying no more often allows you to focus on what is most important. Part of saying no allows you to put yourself as #1. Being selfish and making your life matter means allowing success to meet you.




As a women allow yourself to be successful by choosing a topic to be an expert about. Take time to go deep and through into a subject matter and a topic that is both sought after and valid in your profession and one that you are excited about. Become an expert by speaking about it, doing a blog, creating salons, doing a book, research on it and share about it. Whatever you do to become knowledgeable will serve others and you at the same time.




All of these secrets for success will only be effective if you enroll people. By communicating your passion, your activities and your vision to others: allows you to be your most successful and powerful self. By generating a community of people who listen with you and encourage you will provide the foundation for you to be your very best.



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